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Superstitions

I grow up hearing and practicing a lot of superstitions. I have to say I believe in them. Reason is simple, it is engraved in our breath. We followed it religiously. Our parents and grandparents made sure we practiced them. Nowadays many years living outside country, I find these superstitions we believed back then lost its importance. I started to think why our generations from the past practiced them. There are many reasons as to why already out there. But I want to reason myself why this has started at least my interpretation. I could be wrong.

I have seen one of my neighbor who owns a shop always waited by his gate in the morning. He will not walk until unless he see a bike coming from his right side. He also makes sure it is not a milk bike. He believes that if bike passes by his right side when he walks towards his shop, that day he will get great sales. This happened every day until he passed away. This is actually a superstition. Even my grand parents practiced this. They will never walk out of their house if they see a milk selling bike coming. No one had good explanation as to why? I thought about it a lot. I have no convincing reason either. I have walked out when a milk bike came, nothing happened that day. I was just nervous a little, reason being, I was told many times it is not good. Readers, if you know any valid reason, please input your comments below.

If a crow sits on your front fence and cry, then people believed there will be visitors that day. I have seen people prepping extra food on that day as they are convinced there will be un announced visitors. To tell you the truth, I have myself experienced many times this comes true. Now living in a country there is hardly any fence, I really couldn’t try this out here. This one I do have some explanation. My reasoning to this is simple, Usually people says this during the month of wedding season. I have noticed this all the time, people do not say or anticipate visitors, when crow usually cries by sitting on their entrance fence, but they will comment only during wedding season. It is a common practice in India to invite all the relatives, if someone getting married. There are certain months good for getting married as well. People usually expect at least 3 to 4 weddings during that time. So crow crying and visitors coming does not really have any connection. But it did, during my childhood. Any other explanations please do comment and share.

Asking for a prostitute to come from the opposite direction of your path, if you are going for an important matter, such as a land deal or court case. I have seen this happening during my younger days as well. Not sure why they did. But it was a common belief that if they pass a prostitute everything will fall on their favor. This superstition, I have many problems with. Usually the very same people will not let prostitute to come and attend any functions in their house. They consider that as bad. But when they want to go somewhere, then the presence of them will become good. Does this make any sense. Till this day, I couldn’t come up with any reasoning. Readers, if you know why, please do comment and share your thoughts.

Dropping mustard seeds will bring in poverty to your home. I am not sure how many household have done that and nothing happened to them. I can understand, mustard seeds are very small and if this gets dropped. It is hard to collect them. If you do also, dust will be there as well. So my assumption is that, if in any case, mustard bottle fell down, It is almost impossible to get everything back and on top of that cleaning is difficult. So most of the household must have thrown them away. Most likely the older people decides to add some scare to it. And people became more cautious when they handled mustard seeds. At least this superstition of bringing poverty did it. Again this is my own assumption. I could be wrong.

If anyone bring food to your home in a container, then it is a must you return that container with some food in it. People say, if you give container back empty it is not good for family. Not sure why? We practiced this and saw my parents even doing this. Also some family even put a piece of chilly, when they returned the container, if they did not give food. This prevents bad eye falling on them. Again, this particular superstition, I find it hard to come up with any sort of reasoning.

Wake up in the morning to your right side, not on your left side. I still practice this. But I have never instilled this to my kids. I am not sure their days are bad, when they wake up in the morning and roll to their left side to get up. I got that habit because the society I was brought up had all these superstitions and they religiously follow them. I cannot think of a day, when I got up by rolling towards to my left side. You may wonder, why don’t I? No idea. Do I think, my day will be bad if i do? Yes, I do think that way!!! Well, it is hard for me to change.

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Superstitions usually sticks with you because of the culture you are brought up in. Regardless how much you got educated and how much you tend to analyze how this all started. I will say, if you are born and you practiced during your childhood, that fear in you will stay. The day you did not practice and some thing bad happened to you, it is very easy to relate to the superstition.

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Suicide- Students in India

I am so lucky….. You know why?

I could be one of the stats from India. Daily one student suicide because of the pressure they go through. Can you believe it?

It is true. I have been in this situation. Hey, I can say this much. I never thought of taking my life. I did want to run away from home. Many times. Today after many years, when I look back. I think I had some one looking up for me. Some people call it as God or some supreme power. I still don’t know what it is. I am lucky…

Why? This much pressure. Society is so blind in India. Never changed, this many years and still the same. I thought, situations have changed. But NO guys. I am furious. Recently I read in the news paper, that parents paid some person to arrange strangers to write their kids entrance test to get admissions to Medical courses. Now what happened, they got caught. Now kids got debarred from colleges. The parents are in Jail. Again- Why? What did they got out of this? Kids lost their education. They lost their parents. Now for their entire life, they will be horrible.

I am sick and tired of this. Prime Minister Narendra Modi Ji is doing a lot for the country. But it is high time for him to take a look at this situation. Students are our future. He should reform education system. He should find ways to educate society, that other careers are needed for a well balanced community.

Why, they are forcing kids to do only certain courses? Why the parents are forcing the kids to do the courses they don’t like? Also, why this much pressure put on kids when they are at colleges? Why they have to perform so much? Why they cannot just be kids?

All these talent, these parents create by forcing kids to develop. Kids do it just to make their parents happy. Then they leave country. So what does this society of India really get out of this? I am confused here. Every time I think about it. I am sick on my stomach.

We are ruining our future. Our kids will never live in peace and they lose their childhood. My generation, most of my friends went through this pressure. I thought when we grow up, atleast our kids will not go through this kind of pressure. I thought we will let our kids be kids. Trust me, I am doing my best to give my kids the best childhood they can get. I am living with them. I am getting my childhood back with them. I am re living my dreams, what I used to dream about when I was a kid.

Shame on you all guys, I am calling out all my friends back home. I know many of my friends still running after education institutions paying big donations, securing a seat for their kids, SO the kids get tortured in the system. India has not changed. STOP IT.

Still kids suicide every day because of the pressure we put on them to perform. We don’t give them choice and make them believe, if they don’t become doctors or engineers, they will not make it in their lives. Shame on me as well, I am not able to change the society I came from. I am doing what I can by writing this. Please stop. Let kids live, Let them chose their paths. Let them achieve their dreams. Let them pave their own fate. Guide them. But don’t force them to give you happiness.

I wrote my book, DROPLETS thinking one day the words in my book will open some people eyes. Who knows? My parents realized now, what I am saying. They are not forcing their grand kids. They love them who they are. So, guys, you all can change. We will save kids.

DROPLETS- NET GALLEY REVIEW

My book Droplets is now in the market for just four days. I am glad to see reviews started to come in. I just want to include the one from NetGalley below.

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Featured Reviews
Cristie U, Reviewer
This memoir captured the emotions that author felt when moving to a new country perfectly. He had to contend with strict parents, little money, and other issues and captured those moments brilliantly in this fish out of water memoir. The honest writing makes it easy to empathize with him.

I am excited at the same time speechless to get a 5 star review from Cristie.

Inviting everyone to join the DROPLETS task force.

Dear friends,

I want to invite you to join DROPLETS book launch task force! A book’s success depends a lot on word of mouth and grassroots marketing, so the purpose of this force is simple. LET’s be real here. I am not a well known writer or famous. I am asking everyone to help me get the word out about the book before – and immediately after – the August 8 launch. There are four key areas where I think you all could take action which will really help me to launch my 2 years of labor. Scroll down to check out ideas and actions you can take to get involved and help me. You can do as much as you want, but even one action will make a big difference. Highly appreciated.

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Journey of my book Droplets

I am compelled to write this today. I am positive that this will inspire many others who are on the way to write a book. Or, even starting their own blog. Whatever they are trying to do. One thing I learned with this process is. Never stop because of others. You stop only if you want to. Always believe in what you want to do. Keep on writing.

Droplets went through many changes. I traveled with it. I have to say, like many travels this one was not easy either. I went through many rejections. I got fooled by the people out there who wants to make a buck out of my hard labor. I got bad reviews. One even said, “the worst book ever read”

These quotes, remarks can easily bring anyone down. But friends, you are not writing for one person. You are writing for the ones, who will appreciate your hard work. Find them. It is not easy. Took me two years in the making. I self publish this book under the name “Come-Travel With Me” with a subtitle “Ten Droplets”.

Once a famous actor from south India told in an interview ” If you polish a brass piece every day, that piece will shine like a star”. He said this about his acting. He is a well know proven actor for a long time. He is none other than Mammooty. Well, this can apply in every ones life. If you have a product and you believe in it. Keep improving it. Keep trying with many people. One day it will come out and some one will see its worth.

I will show you the revisions at least on the cover page. So you will see how much it evolved. What is the final product. Today I can proudly say, Droplets is a fine book for anyone to read. It is polished. It is edited by professionals. I am very happy. I am sure some of you will like this as well. Please read my book and give some reviews anywhere in the social media you use. For authors like us, word of mouth is the oxygen. Thanks for reading my blog. See below the transformation of my book.

This is my own design which I used when I self published the book.

Below is the publisher’s first draft. I felt it was too close to my design. Went back to design table.

Below is the third. It was missing something according to my gut instinct. Friends, you don’t compromise until you are fully satisfied. So I asked them to go back to design table again.

I went with this one below. It is set to release on August 8 2019. I am content. Happy. I am also saying this because this feeling, I am sure many have felt. But only those who stick to it and push harder will get the results. So Friends, See below my book DROPLETS

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Perspective on life

Today I happened to listen to a motivational speaker. Listening to him, I felt like sharing his words here. Not exactly his words, but the message is same. I got different angle of looking at life today after I listened. It is eye opening. He asked the following questions one by one.

You are born because of?

Others.

Your name is given by?

Others.

Your resources such as meat, vegetables etc by?

Others

The love and affection you receive are from?

Others

The money you earn while working are given by?

Others

The respect you earn are given by?

Others

When you die the last rites are given by?

Others

The wealth you earn when you are alive is given or taken by?

Others

So, Why don’t we all close our eyes and think a minute is it that we are the ones who do every thing. No your existence itself is because of others. Once you start thinking that you don’t do any thing alone, the people around do for you, then you slowly will develop compassion for others. People who always says “I worked hard, I did this for you, I stepped up to achieve this” should realize that it is not I, it is we.

Knowledge is to share. I gained this knowledge yesterday and I felt I should share this to whoever is reading my blog. I believe in positive things. Last few years, I have changed and only positve I see. I donot have time for negativity in my life. Share this message, Repost this message if you like.

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Mental health day

October 10- Mental health day. I wanted to write this on that day, however time constraints did not let me do that.

Radio show I usually listen to stated that 500,000 Canadians miss work due to mental health problems. That is a quite large number. The problem I see is that most of them don’t want to talk about it. I have taken first aid on mental health. The knowledge I got from that course I use daily at my life. I encourage every one to take this course in their life time atleast once.

I do have a mixture of employees work for me. Every one comes from different ethnic background. They all adapt to same working conditions differently. As a manager I realize that and i have over the years adapted to their understandings. I now can sense when they come to work with mixed feelings.

One important tool, I gain by doing the course is talk to these people. I can listen to them now, I do understand the difficulty. I understand it is not a disease. One excercise we did was to bring out two people from the class. Rest of them stayed where they were. Instructor asked the two people come back in to the class room and start yelling at the students ear. The students were asked to talk to each other about a family problem. At the same time the person yelling in to their ears saying “Don’t listen to them, They are bad, They are going to kill you”

We realized that is how people live daily. If you don’t live in their shoes, you will not understand. I want to help them. I leave my office open at all times. At any time my employee wants to talk about family issues or any other personal issues, they are welcome to come and take it out. It does help.

Prior to this course, I had hard time listening. I usually give solutions and try to get on with other things. Then I realize the solutions I give may not work for them. Or they already tried that. If I don’t listen fully, how can i give them suggestions?

I also took Leaders as coaches course, where you get exposed to become a coach. I have effectively listened and help three staff. I am sure they are thankful to me. I also understand as a manager, this kind of help will motivate them.

First aid course have given me insight to mental health. Also given me the tools to analyze a person when they show up for work.

Please do realize that we can help and we need to tame our mind to do that. Thanks for reading. Prayers to all those suffer and hope they all get help from some one who cares.

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Birthdays.

I don’t like birthdays. Simple. I have many reasons.

  1. What is so special about coming to this world?
  2. You see a lot of issues just because you are here.
  3. You see pain and sufferings just because you are here.
  4. You wish you have control on certain problems, just because you happened to be here.
  5. Your work and issues related with that, just because you happened to be here.
  6. War and politics, you see just because you are here.
  7. You are helpless, just because you are here.
  8. Crime and death you see, just because you are here.
  9. You are bullied just because you are here
  10. You are always judged, just because you are here
  11. Your faith, believe, responsibilities all questioned, just because you are here.
  12. Your race, color, nationality all under review, just because you are here.

Above reasons I listed doesn’t mean I hate life. I love my life. I wonder why people celebrate birthdays not death. I think it should be other way around. Death should be celebrated. He or she finished her so called duty here on earth deserves to be celebrated. There are many beliefs out there states, we are send here for a reason. I do not see anything, why people are here creating lot of hatred?  Is that the reason why God send us here? Then I will say birthdays are the worst day in ones life. These days people fight each other in the name or religion, faith, country, color, race and even for possessions. No love. Screw birthdays my friends. I am scared for my children. This world is going in the direction where there will be no love left.

I always said, I will write to encourage positiveness. I hope writing this will make some people to think about love. We people should love each other. Then birthdays will find its meaning. Till then, I think deathday is the one we should celebrate.

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