One who works or takes Credits?

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I heard from someone today. There are two types of people. One who works and other one takes credit. Who you want to be?

For me, I want to be the person who work. You know why? There is less competition with this group. You are like minded. The other group always wants to takes credit from other people who work or bring ideas. They will compete each other to claim the work or Ideas others bring to table. Let me tell you one thing, here, I am also kind of doing what the group I don’t want to be in. The line I heard above is not mine. But the lesson I learned from the question is big. So I would like to put some work here to make this easy to relate to. I will not claim any credit for the question in discussion here.

As a leader, It is very easy to sit back and take the credit of the team themselves. Lot of people tend to do this unknowingly.A true leader will work hard and walk with the team. Credit will be given to the team as well.

Same thing applies, Some leaders support their subordinates with all their power as long as they are working together. The day they move to a different part of the company,the leader will not even talk to them. This gives the employee a big doubt in their mind “Did my boss used me to move up the ladder?” That is not a good motivation spark for the employee. There are many times leader may have to re enter the same department due to organizational changes. Then that dynamic between the employee and the leader will be struggling for sure.

Leaders are not born, they are born through hard work. Motivating others and guiding others to succeed with out fear is what makes the unique strong leader. They will have followers. They will last long. Showing that soft side of vulnerability will take you to higher stands in the mind of employees. So who are you? One who works or one who takes credit? Food for thought here.

Only Shadow Stayed with me ! – A Poem

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Forgot to smile with life

Eyes don’t have tears left

Mind kept throbbing inside

Trying to convey in vain

Death came closer as I feel

Only shadow stayed with me

Kept creeping in to my soul

Even dreams saying bid to me

Wandered alone up and down

In lonely streets of life, I know

Days turned to dark nights

Only shadow stayed with me

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Feet felt cold when I start walking

Rain drops fall to write stories

The footprints imprint I saw

Get washed away in rain as I create

One life not enough to learn mysteries

Only shadow stayed with me

Mind burn in fire leaving pain

Looking up skies move farther

Who will give wings to reach high

Just like arrows pain strike the heart

Hoping to bloom like a flower again

Only shadow stayed with me

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Droplets-$0.99 Cents Book promotion

Those who know me and are following don’t have to hear this over and over. About my book. DROPLETS. I got many author friends who told me writing is easy, but promoting that work is very hard. I agree with them now. I have not promoted my work daily. I got many advises from my publisher that I will not succeed. They also told me “Shameless Self Promotion” is the key. Meaning write and showcase about my work everyday, similar to advertisements coming on Television. Then on the other hand, people might think I am over doing it. I do not know how to reach that crowd who loves to read my kind of writing. I feel very satisfied when I write. This is the only way I know. So please bear with me.

The other fact my co authors who have walked before me advised that the book will not be purchased by your friends and family. They all expect free copies. It is funny that I did not believe that. But numbers don’t lie. I hail from Indian background. If my friends and family all have purchased, I will be a millionaire by now. We have more relatives than any other culture in the world. We make every one relatives. Those who have attended an Indian Wedding can easily relate to that.

Now it is lock down and self isolation time. I get many tweets from many asking for 99 cents promotion.People expressed that during this tough times and no regular wages, they cannot afford full price book. I agree and want to help as much as I can to keep a healthy society. Those who read this. Share this.

Life Sprouts- A Poem

Deep there somewhere one day

Someone plants a seed in fertile land

Hiding there sometime waiting to sprout

Underground darkness and heart beat rhythms

One day the call came and pushed us out

Saw the sun and shine in our eyes

Felt the wind first time on our skin

Don’t know where we are and what we are

Saw many weird beings around us making weird noises

Around us upside down moving in two and four feets

Few months passed by trying to mimic them

Colors and taste changed around us

Weird beings became normal for us

Giggles and laughter started to make sense

Relationships starts to make sense

We call it life and what a blessing to experience.

“Life is a journey, One cannot plan or reserve tickets – Ajay Nair”

When Snow Falls…

Year 2000, First time I saw snow. I have already lived more than two decades in this beautiful earth. I realize then, universe have many hidden talents. Some you will never discover through out your life time. I was so happy, I still remember vividly, it was in the evening around 7 pm. I walked out. First time I felt snow fall on my face. Happiness at that moment is hard to explain in words.

One may wonder, why I call snow as nature’s talent. The way it is formed, I am always amazed by it. The white color of it. Unaltered. It is most purest form of everything. You want to hold it, but you cannot keep it for ever. It will melt. At the same time what happens to that beautiful white color. It vanishes. As soon as we touch them the purity goes away.

When it falls from sky, even the nature stands still. I always felt the presence of some power at that time. You can see the world is glowing at that time. The color of the sky, the light around the buildings, let it be night. Let it be morning, it has got some sort of presence, like halo. There is peace to it. I love watching the snow fall. Mind you, I hate cleaning it later.

This winter, we had quite a bit of snow fall. We had trouble getting to work. We had a lot of difficulties. But how many of us actually went out for a bit just to enjoy what nature has given to us. For those who did not do that, I am giving you all a few glimpses of it. Hope you enjoy my clicks.

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Suicide- Students in India

I am so lucky….. You know why?

I could be one of the stats from India. Daily one student suicide because of the pressure they go through. Can you believe it?

It is true. I have been in this situation. Hey, I can say this much. I never thought of taking my life. I did want to run away from home. Many times. Today after many years, when I look back. I think I had some one looking up for me. Some people call it as God or some supreme power. I still don’t know what it is. I am lucky…

Why? This much pressure. Society is so blind in India. Never changed, this many years and still the same. I thought, situations have changed. But NO guys. I am furious. Recently I read in the news paper, that parents paid some person to arrange strangers to write their kids entrance test to get admissions to Medical courses. Now what happened, they got caught. Now kids got debarred from colleges. The parents are in Jail. Again- Why? What did they got out of this? Kids lost their education. They lost their parents. Now for their entire life, they will be horrible.

I am sick and tired of this. Prime Minister Narendra Modi Ji is doing a lot for the country. But it is high time for him to take a look at this situation. Students are our future. He should reform education system. He should find ways to educate society, that other careers are needed for a well balanced community.

Why, they are forcing kids to do only certain courses? Why the parents are forcing the kids to do the courses they don’t like? Also, why this much pressure put on kids when they are at colleges? Why they have to perform so much? Why they cannot just be kids?

All these talent, these parents create by forcing kids to develop. Kids do it just to make their parents happy. Then they leave country. So what does this society of India really get out of this? I am confused here. Every time I think about it. I am sick on my stomach.

We are ruining our future. Our kids will never live in peace and they lose their childhood. My generation, most of my friends went through this pressure. I thought when we grow up, atleast our kids will not go through this kind of pressure. I thought we will let our kids be kids. Trust me, I am doing my best to give my kids the best childhood they can get. I am living with them. I am getting my childhood back with them. I am re living my dreams, what I used to dream about when I was a kid.

Shame on you all guys, I am calling out all my friends back home. I know many of my friends still running after education institutions paying big donations, securing a seat for their kids, SO the kids get tortured in the system. India has not changed. STOP IT.

Still kids suicide every day because of the pressure we put on them to perform. We don’t give them choice and make them believe, if they don’t become doctors or engineers, they will not make it in their lives. Shame on me as well, I am not able to change the society I came from. I am doing what I can by writing this. Please stop. Let kids live, Let them chose their paths. Let them achieve their dreams. Let them pave their own fate. Guide them. But don’t force them to give you happiness.

I wrote my book, DROPLETS thinking one day the words in my book will open some people eyes. Who knows? My parents realized now, what I am saying. They are not forcing their grand kids. They love them who they are. So, guys, you all can change. We will save kids.