When you leave your country!!

Two decades ago, I left my country. I am now settled and well established both career wise and personally. Beautiful family. I am proud of it. Deep inside every immigrant who are now on my stage will have the same thoughts. I like to share this, so next generation who are planning to follow my footsteps, will have tools. I want everyone to pause and think. We all did to better our lives. Yes, we should. No doubt on that thought. The pandemic situation right now have opened my eyes a little more than before.

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Parents- Two people we called as family. The love you get from them makes your character. They also will support you to move and establish yourself. I have to say, they will be the most happiest of all, when you go abroad leaving them behind. Friends, this pandemic have pushed me back a little. Not easy now for me and for many others for sure. We are more like, in a locked down stage. If we are not, we may enter to that stage. What will happen to your loved ones? Who will take care of them? These thoughts will emerge. Regardless, whether we are going through this pandemic or not. Once we achieve our so called “Better life” this reality will sink in. By that time it is very late for many. What I am trying to say here is, before you leave your country plan it well. Foresee what you can do to avoid that. Act with in five years of your life abroad and make sure parents are with you. They will need you for sure. Parents are the best actors in the world. They will smile and laugh to make you feel at ease. Trust me they are crying inside and most probably thinking “Why did I let my kid go abroad? Why did society pushed us to push my kid? Is that truly a good decision? Friends, Ask yourself. Those who are already in my boat, no point. It is very late. For those who just started, they have time. Please do.

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Next to consider. Do you really need to leave your country? Million dollar question. We really need to sit down and think. Talk to many others who left the country. Believe them if they say, no need to go. When I was growing up, Internet was not flourished. We did not have much means to ponder around. Facts we get are from the promoters who try to sell student visas or work visas. We never get the real picture. One of my friend got an answer from the agent ” Toronto and Vancouver, you can easily go in a bus to and fro. Only few hours. You can visit your friend every weekend” Glad that he checked with me. Otherwise he would have gone to Toronto believing that he could visit me weekly. This is two decades ago. My advise is simple, If you have enough to live happily, stay in your country. Your mother land will give you more and your mental health will be always better. There is nothing really out there to achieve. We will realize once you reach a life stage. People are just running for money and fame. They are not enjoying their life. They are just puppets. They worry about their past. They have concerns about their future. But no one really live. They never see what is happening around them. I was not told by any one these points to consider. Now I am telling you, younger generation to consider. Weigh in, before you leap. Always we believe other side of the planet is greener. Fact is. NOT.

Dream on guys. At the end, I want to say this much only. Do not just leap, think twice, thrice. Parents are the most important people, the ones who took care of you. When in need, you should be there for you. I am not writing this because of this pandemic situation. In general this is something everyone should consider.If you can work hard and are dedicated to your career, you will make it regardless where you are. If you want to make quick buck with out hard work, Any country you chose, regardless, you will fail. Simple message friends. Simple. Nothing can replace you being there for your parents when in need. They will not ask. You need to realize that. You should do it.

Diverting thoughts…

I cannot stress this enough guys,

During this hard times and not been able to go to work. Every one reacts and cope differently. Mental health is very important for us. To keep us healthy we need to channel our thoughts to a positive nature. Lot of people who are extroverts will find it extremely hard to stay at home. All these free time, they do not know how to utilize it.

This could be the time one can actually try something out, which you may have been wanting to do for a long time. Don’t get me wrong here. I am not talking about something you need to go out and be in public. You want to do that project at home. But no time. Now is the time isn’t it. You may have been thinking to re arrange that garage. This is the time guys. This is it. Do it. Do not sit in your room and kill your time or watch shows after show. Down the road you will get depressed.

Mental health or issues can be a silent killer. No one should go through that because of this pandemic situation. I said, find that project. I did. The pictures I am going to post in this blog are taken by me. Well, I did not travel any where. These are from my own yard. I always wanted to take cool pictures. Let me tell you guys. The time I spend taking these picture and the outcome, has taken over my thoughts to a positive nature. I did not worry at that time. So if you all can find that something which can take your mind off. I promise we will have a healthy pandemic time period. I pray, those who are struggling can divert their thoughts and be healthy. I am sharing my thoughts here to help other. And my pictures.

I also writes once a while. This does help me as well. People say it is easy to say, but it is hard to understand actual mental health problem. I admit. It is not easy for an outsider to understand the pain they go through. But we can definitely help them by suggesting solutions. May work for some. If I can be a help for one person I will consider myself blessed. So please if you like this share to someone you love. May be they could share this to someone they know. May be, not photography or writing. They may surprise us with a video or some form or art they love. They may find that energy, that spark who knows what. But at the end of the day, they are not de motivated or depressed. Doesn’t that sound healthy. Lets work together. Share this and help others. I am doing my part and encouraging those who read to share this to support a healthy society.